My mother always told me that "polite company" avoided talking about politics and religion. Friends and book club members often tacitly follow the same rule. Here are some best-selling books that may be "taboo" because they touch on religious and political sensitivities: Zealot: The Life and Times of Jesus of Nazareth by Reza Aslan; Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg; and This Town, a blistering insider look at Washington by journalist Mark Leibovich. Yet surely well-meaning people can have a productive discussion about ideas that matter to them! Maybe we just need to set rules for civil discourse, rules opposite to the ones that seem to govern "debates" in the media arena. Here are my five suggestions: 1) Don't start a conversation unless you can all agree to be open to, and respectful of, other viewpoints; the goal should be self-education not changing others' beliefs or lecturing about your own. 2) Tread carefully and tactfully into unknown opinion waters; don't assume you already know other people's positions since they may agree, disagree, or not care a flip. 3) Stick to the facts (generally accepted information or research) and avoid expressing personal judgment or criticism. 4) Know when to keep quiet and when to quit (prepare an appeasing exit line such as "I'll have to consider that..."). 5) Steer the discussion from personal convictions, specific institutions and doctrines to more general theories. Turn "Do you believe in Jesus Christ?" into "What is the role of religious faith today?" Please share your tips for successful discussion of a controversial book!
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